As Napoleon Dynamite so keenly observed, it is the cultivation of skills that makes us attractive to potential mates. Skills of any sort will do: guitar-strumming, meditating, painting, scuba-diving, skateboarding, rollerskating, kite-flying, short story writing, capoeira-ing, weaving, artisan breadmaking, cleaning(!!), fixing things I broke, etc. These are all worthwhile in themselves for the pleasure of accomplishment they offer the doer. They also make one's self-confidence stronger and more distinctive.
Nodding to Napoleon once again, we do these activities for other reasons as well. Quite frankly, I adore the idea of dating a person with a multitude of skills. It would not only mix things up and provide for entertainment, but would also constitute a unique learning experience. This is because those with skills, when adept and fine-tuned in the practice of their art, tend to want to share their talents with the novice.
Now where do I find someone who not only rollerskates (not
blading, either), plays the cello, flyfishes, crafts furniture, and tumbles to the melodious twang of the berimbau? This is just the start of my list, too. In exchange, I can proffer up skills in cooking, running, mediocre children's storybook writing, and city-navigating. Yeah, it's not an even trade, I realize that.
So the search may take a while. Alas, such an expedition of skill-seeking may end up sharpening my own skills in sleuthing.